You and family have been invited to someone's house for their daughter's birthday party. You don't really want to go because it's a long drive and you have other things you'd rather do that day. But you feel like you have to go because they invited you. You're discussing it with your husband and say this.
I kind of feel obligated to go, you know?
I feel kind of obligated to go.
You look a little sick. Are you OK?
It's somewhat smaller than I thought it would be.
But only "kind of" sounds right before a verb, and only in casual conversation:
I kind of wanted to go with them.
People sometimes pronounce "kind of" in a way that sounds like "kinda".
"Feeling obligated" to do something means feeling like you're supposed to do it. People feel obligated to do things because of social reasons. For instance, if someone gives you a gift, you might "feel obligated" to give them a gift back in return. In the example above, the speaker might feel obligated to go to the party because she doesn't want to seem rude by not going.
People mostly use the phrase "feel obligated" to talk about things that they don't want to do.
Some English speakers, especially younger ones, use "you know?" on the end of their sentences. There's not a lot of meaning to it, but people use it when they want the listener to agree with the feeling or emotion of what they're saying. For example:
In this example, someone doesn't want to go to a party, but she feels like she has to. She wants the listener to agree with that feeling, so she says "you know?" at the end of the sentence. Another example:
There are some people who over-use "you know" and put it in almost half of their sentences. It doesn't sound very intelligent when you do this.
When someone who's speaking to you says "you know?", it's good to nod your head or say something like "Yeah."
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